We may earn commission from links on this page, but we only recommend products we love. Even if you have zero coordination and can't hold a beat to save your life, lap dances have little to do with skill and more to do with confidence. It's like the saying look good, feel good, do good. In other words, there's no right or wrong way to give someone a lap dance, so long as both parties are enjoying themselves. The average lap dance should last at least two songs.